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[the_fantastic_ms_fox]

When I say,

"Your life is not only yours to live, but yours to destroy."

it's not as a dire warning, or a remark on suicide.

Rather, I refer to your entitlement to do damage to your own well-being;

or, that you don't owe yourself to others.

You have the right to take risks that affect you.

So when you are afraid to speak your mind, because people might think ill of you, or to move a little closer because the object of your proposed intimacy might turn you down, it is up to you to weigh the risks and to choose. The denial or ill thought will be upon you.

So don't be afraid of rejection for its own sake, as if that would make you a bad team member. There is nothing inherently wrong or sinful or irresponsible about being denied. Think only of whether you are willing to chance its toll on yourself.

In such a space of acting for yourself, it is easier to be bold in matters of compassion, vulnerability and closeness.

Comments

[sciencequeen.livejournal.com]

Heh I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm afraid of them being so awkward that they can't even talk to me after they've rejected me.

[plaidalicious.livejournal.com]

This is complicated nowadays by the fact that, as part of a committed couple I feel the need to consider that some of my risks affect HIM as well.

Some days I do better at this than others.

I am rarely afraid to speak my mind. Speaking it to those who it is needful to hear the thoughts is more difficult at times.

I don't want anyone to think ill of me, but at the same time I'm not one to keep my opinion to myself.

Striking the balance is what I find difficulty with.

It is never easy to be bold.

Sometimes I still feel that a frightened little girl dwells beneath my skin.

[bloodykitty.livejournal.com]

someone's going to think ill of you anyway. i think if it needs to be said--say it.
if it won't change anything--save your breath.

bold is easy for me. shutting up is more difficult. few of my knee-jerk reactions are useful.