Dec. 13th, 2010

(Edit: This is not expressing anger at anyone who is reading this. Some of the problem events are well in the past, so if you didn't get an invite, it may be that I didn't know you at the time. The current problem is a focus group where I have to limit the number of invitees.)

I hold an event, or a series thereof.

People tell me they're interested.

I invite them.

They don't don't show up.

They say it sounds like fun and that they'll come in the future.

Sometimes people even stop me in the street to say that they've heard about this thing I'm doing. And that they like whatever I'm hosting; that they've been meaning to attend. Or that they'd like to come, and they ask if they can.

"Yes, of course," I say.

But I still wind up waiting for no-one to show up, then finding something else to do.


Frustrated.

A little hurt.

I don't get it.


Is it Vancouver?

I didn't have this trouble in Nelson.
I hear it's not like this in Toronto, Montreal.

It's not just matter of the number of invites, because I see other people draw regular attendance.

Even here, I see other people who run weekly events so popular that their apartment windows fog with collective breath. Usually they involve watching movies. Is that the missing piece? Movies?

That's part of it, but I've seen movies packed or empty.

So, other than the location, what's the difference? I see other people who have the same problem, and I compare them to those who do not. The difference seems to be I see that colourful, dramatic, boisterous people get attendance and people who are more reserved and calm do not.

Is this it?

If so, why? Are people reasonably certain that the settled personality will host again, because they're a regular sort, while the exhuberant may not? Or do people just not notice the former?

Thinking of dying my hair green.

Not because of this problem, but I wonder if it won't affect it.

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