With some reflection. This may have to do with "what do I have to do to be taken /seriously/ as [blank]."
Last few years, it was: "A nice guy and an ally in reforming/eliminating all the shit that's wrong with gender. See look, I'm taking Women's Studies, and I volunteer for Out-on-Campus, and I correct my friends when they caricateurize femisists and I'm very careful about not expressing unwanted sexual interest and so on."
At it felt like the answer was "no one's actually cared to answer that but the more you try, the more you'll be punished as /both/ Part-of-The-Problem /and/ not really a man." This is a real sore spot for me when I look at gender (and trans-gender) politics - EVERYONE NEEDS ALLIES AND MY SIDE KEEPS PISSING PEOPLE OFF.
Now it's "female."
And it still seems that the answer is "not a hell of a lot." And when I see an act that is complaining about being in a position that I am putting a lot of time, work, money and risk into doing and to hell with the consequences, /even if what they say is totally justified/, it still /feels/ like someone complaining about their yacht being too small.
Maybe you and me both need to have a (thoroughly considered and reflexive) LJ rant. If handled with "I" statements and so on, might this be an acceptable topic to throw up on QWIK? - "Complain and deconstruct."
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I want to develop that compassion sage character understanding that Leguin shows.
Date: 2007-04-09 04:33 am (UTC)Last few years, it was: "A nice guy and an ally in reforming/eliminating all the shit that's wrong with gender. See look, I'm taking Women's Studies, and I volunteer for Out-on-Campus, and I correct my friends when they caricateurize femisists and I'm very careful about not expressing unwanted sexual interest and so on."
At it felt like the answer was "no one's actually cared to answer that but the more you try, the more you'll be punished as /both/ Part-of-The-Problem /and/ not really a man." This is a real sore spot for me when I look at gender (and trans-gender) politics - EVERYONE NEEDS ALLIES AND MY SIDE KEEPS PISSING PEOPLE OFF.
Now it's "female."
And it still seems that the answer is "not a hell of a lot." And when I see an act that is complaining about being in a position that I am putting a lot of time, work, money and risk into doing and to hell with the consequences, /even if what they say is totally justified/, it still /feels/ like someone complaining about their yacht being too small.
Maybe you and me both need to have a (thoroughly considered and reflexive) LJ rant. If handled with "I" statements and so on, might this be an acceptable topic to throw up on QWIK? - "Complain and deconstruct."