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Sep. 24th, 2006 01:50 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
the_fantastic_ms_foxAnd with Bailie, I think that I have now come out to all of the people with whom I regularly hang out. This has one well. I'm fortunate. Good.
I still have to tell my mom (she'll be up here next weekend), and a few other people I know but see rarely.
I'm writing this in part so that other people who go through these initial stages (questioning, fear, coming out and so on), can have something to read, because there ain't a hell of a lot of information like this out there, you see.
So I inculde tidbits like this:
1- Just as a lot of gay men think the expectations, habits and general sense of "the gay scene" is nuts, and eschew it and its inhabitants for something which may or may not involve a lot of co-sexual association, the same goes for trans folk - especially among intellectuals and/or people in my generation. (thank you Bailie, Dan Savage and Ashton for the pointer)
2- When I see myself as this soft-androgynous dyke, 90% or more of what I've ever felt about gender, gender roles, and how I fit into these things makes sense.
3- And even knowing this, I still have I must be crazy - this isn't necessary - give it a chance moments. These are tempered by thoughts of Although I might be disappointed if something goes wrong, I can't actually imagine regretting going through with this. But important changes are never easy. Nor need they be rushed.
So I inculde tidbits like this:
1- Just as a lot of gay men think the expectations, habits and general sense of "the gay scene" is nuts, and eschew it and its inhabitants for something which may or may not involve a lot of co-sexual association, the same goes for trans folk - especially among intellectuals and/or people in my generation. (thank you Bailie, Dan Savage and Ashton for the pointer)
2- When I see myself as this soft-androgynous dyke, 90% or more of what I've ever felt about gender, gender roles, and how I fit into these things makes sense.
3- And even knowing this, I still have I must be crazy - this isn't necessary - give it a chance moments. These are tempered by thoughts of Although I might be disappointed if something goes wrong, I can't actually imagine regretting going through with this. But important changes are never easy. Nor need they be rushed.