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I'm following up on the letter I sent out earlier to a woman's kink thingy.
What amuses me about all of this is:
[edit: I'm leaving the remaining typos in to remind myself why I shouldn't write important letters when I should be sleeping]
1. With this dyke event, where variant gender-expresion is presumably welcome (short hair, comfortable shoes), I'm going to bat to have body-variance included
2. At the women's centre, where they are pretty darn good about body-variance (i.e. intersex, MtF), I am (actually, I should say "was, and may again after the CFS stuff is done") trying to get gender expression included so the space users will stop bothering women with short hair.
So we have people who belong to the one, who would wonder whether they're welcome, and fully welcome, at the other. Maybe I should introduce them.
Man, this shit makes me tense. It just pokes a stick in me. Boundaries. Boundaries.
Anyway. The letters. I guess I'm putting them here to prove I exist, that I am doing this. I think that probing for these answers is the right thing to do, but I feel like I'm being a jackass.
What I want is a clear answer, and it annys me and scares me when I can't get one (confer: BC vital statistics and changing gender). With a clear answer, I do not have to worry about me or one of my friends getting a hurtful response where they thought theywere welcome. I might even be able to look forward to expanding the social bounds and esources of somethnig that I care about (see examples one and two above).
What amuses me about all of this is:
[edit: I'm leaving the remaining typos in to remind myself why I shouldn't write important letters when I should be sleeping]
1. With this dyke event, where variant gender-expresion is presumably welcome (short hair, comfortable shoes), I'm going to bat to have body-variance included
2. At the women's centre, where they are pretty darn good about body-variance (i.e. intersex, MtF), I am (actually, I should say "was, and may again after the CFS stuff is done") trying to get gender expression included so the space users will stop bothering women with short hair.
So we have people who belong to the one, who would wonder whether they're welcome, and fully welcome, at the other. Maybe I should introduce them.
Man, this shit makes me tense. It just pokes a stick in me. Boundaries. Boundaries.
Anyway. The letters. I guess I'm putting them here to prove I exist, that I am doing this. I think that probing for these answers is the right thing to do, but I feel like I'm being a jackass.
What I want is a clear answer, and it annys me and scares me when I can't get one (confer: BC vital statistics and changing gender). With a clear answer, I do not have to worry about me or one of my friends getting a hurtful response where they thought theywere welcome. I might even be able to look forward to expanding the social bounds and esources of somethnig that I care about (see examples one and two above).
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