I need to do something ritual-y to get over the internal-narrative hump of being "dead." Something informal, short and affirming rather than lengthy, scripted and arduous. Sometime in the range of the 18th thru 21st, most likely. I can do it alone or with any willing volunteers.

And cutting, of course.

I'm looking around for information on a "queer debutante" and I'm not finding a lot. Can you direct me?

I am however finding out more about debutante events in American society, and am not sure if I'm more amused or repulsed. No. Repulsed.

Emily post's opinion - http://www.bartleby.com/95/18.html
Alternatively, at the bottom of the page - http://www.kalin.lm.com/carr.html